It’s part of the process. It’s not a bug, it’s a feature.
Ambivalence is part of everything that’s important.
Resistance shows up everywhere. You don’t have to call it resistance. It might show up as tiredness. As scrolling. As thinking “this is not for me”. Not now.
That’s fine. We don’t fight it. We work with resistance, not against it.
Resistance isn’t weakness. It’s information. It’s a signal that something matters. We treat resistance like a muscle. We use MI (Motivational Interviewing) to listen, reflect, and move. Or not.
For anyone who thinks this isn’t about them.
You’re probably not wrong. But you might also be standing in your own way. Maybe you could use some friction. Not saying, just asking.
Friction can look like:
- Calling someone instead of asking ChatGPT.
- Admitting that “we should catch up sometime” has expired.
- Saying ‘I want connection’ (or more friends), without knowing how.
- Calling someone instead of “letting them see that you watched their story.”
- Turning off “Do Not Disturb” once in a while.
What MI (really) is.
Motivational Interviewing isn’t about motivating people who “lack motivation.”
It’s about respecting ambivalence, the part of you that wants to change and the part that doesn’t. We don’t try to convince either side. We let them talk to each other.
MI starts from trust that you already hold the reasons and directions you need. Our job isn’t to add fuel, it is to walk together with you so your own spark can breathe.
When resistance shows up, we don’t push. We get curious.
TL;DR: Resistance is the gap between what you say you want and what you actually do.